December 2014


For those who need nothing and others who have little

Monday, December 15, 2014

So you may already be rolling your eyes just from the title of this post.  But, hang in there with me.  Every year at this time, I have the same conversation over and over about how I don't really need anything.  Many people would admit the same thing.  It is a blessing.

However, there is one thing that I really do want but cannot really ask for, and it isn't going to happen.  We had never really intended for King Diaper to be an only.  It is something that I struggle with and am growing to accept.  

And, in accepting this, I take great joy in our life with him.  It is great.  And he the part of my life that I was missing and longing for before having him.  

But, I also think about other children that long just as I do for basic needs.  This past year, I learned about a ministry in Uganda that helps children in need.  Many of these children have lost their parents tragically and do not have a support system to care of them.  

Sonrise Ministries helps to provide a place for both babies and children to grow and thrive.  Babies are cared for in a partner ministry called the Sonrise Baby Home.  But, this isn't free.  And they depend on donors to help support the children they care for.  

This year, we are going to help sponsor a child there.  I like that persons can select a specific child to sponsor/co-sponsor.  Persons can read about the child and learn more about the children in need.  When I see these children, I think about our own child and the life he has and children his very age in need just like him.  Its a connection that I cannot deny and is very real.  

So, if you are looking for a way to give back and something different to do as you start the new year, consider this as a gift to yourself or for someone you love.  And, if you want to help locally, look for a children's home in your area.  These facilities help children that are in need.  

I'm not asking Santa for a little brother or sister for King Diaper.  But, I do want to try and help a little child somewhere else to have a better life.  To me, it is a gift to be able to help someone else even when I want something I can't have.  

Get Your Merry On!

Monday, December 8, 2014

Merry Christmas!
I love crafting!  This Christmas it was time for a wreath update at our house, and this might have been one of the easiest and most enjoyable projects that I have ever done.  It required both little time and skill.  So, this is a craft for anyone.

What do you need?

  • Wire wreath form
  • Mesh Ribbon or Burlap, 6 to 7 inches wide and choose about 3 colors that coordinate
  • Decorative items to finish, ornaments or letters, etc!
I started with my wire form and started with my first color.  You will want to start off with your bold color that you want to stand out the most or is your widest width.  You will start by pulling a loop through the form making a puff.  This loop with have a tail that is the end of your ribbon where you start and can be tucked in at the end.  The other end will be used to continue working around until you are finished.  

Wire wreath form, accent pieces
and ribbon
Pull up another loop through another section in the wire form from the longest end of ribbon.  Continue doing this all the way around until you have finished your roll.  Save the tail to tuck in at the end as you finish off.  You will want to space your ribbon so that you can work all the way around with your first color.
Tuck your first ribbon/mesh that you want to stand out the
most and is bolder than the others 

Next, you will start to do the same thing with your second color.  You will space your second color around the first working in and out all the way around your wreath.  Finally, doing the same thing with the third color.

On the third, you will find that you have less space and need to work a little to pull your pieces into the wreath.  This last color should be your accent color to make things pop.  You may also use less of this final color.  

Last, you will attach any accent pieces like your ornaments or monogram letters.  This will just depend on your theme and color scheme.  Check out the holiday ornament section of your store and pick up things that will work in well and aren't easily broken.  

After all the ribbon
You will end up with a fluffy wreath that is easy and pretty.  You can pick bright shiny mesh and pair it with simple burlap.  Look for colored burlap as well.  The main thing is picking things that have enough width and bulk that they will hold their shape as you make your loops.  I had a little ribbon left and used it as garland on my tree.
Accent pieces are gold peacocks and holly

This would also make a great gift for someone that you know!  This was my little nap time craft over Thanksgiving weekend.  And, I'm glad I did it.  Get your merry crafting on with a Christmas wreath.  Doing a simple craft like this is the best way to be successful with something new and customized just for you!  

The Fear that Never Goes Away

Monday, December 1, 2014

Fear is a feeling that I knew but had never experienced in such big doses until King Diaper.  And once you become up close and personal with this emotion on a daily basis, it seems to have a hold on me in a way that I just can't shake.  Its real and is connected to something very tangible.  Our son.

During our time in the NICU, I cannot tell you how many times he was bagged due to breathing difficulties.  I have seen him turn shades of grey and blue that make my stomach turn.  I've watched nurses and doctors work on him for such a long period that the nurses came back multiple times to give me updates while his little life hung in the balance.

He was the child with one nurse caring for him 24 hours a day while cranked up on the vent and nitric. And yet, now he is at home in our care.  For those 6 months, the doctors and nurses were our life line to our child.  Every nurse that he had has a story and something real attached.  I could probably tell you something about every nurse that helped save his life and bring him home.  I will forever be grateful.  Even on long frustrating days when I just didn't think I could do it any more, I am still grateful for all that this incredible team of people did.

So, why the fear?  Well for starters, a cold isn't just a common cold in our house.  King Diaper breathes and rattles in ways that would scare most parents at times.  It scares me.  He coughs to the point of gagging and veins popping out of the sides of his neck as he strains.

And in the back of my mind, I can still see that sick little child in his plastic box being bagged by nurses as the alarms went off.

Life if a regimented thing for us.  There are medicines, and breathing treatments.  So days it a cage match to get the mask on his face.  He rubs his medicine laced yogurt or applesauce in his hair and screams.  And, there are uneventful days.

Since Labor Day, we've been battling a cold that isn't getting better.  And now, we are onto yet another specialist - a Pediatric Pulmonologist.  How is that for a mouthful?

I try not to live life in fear.  I do enjoy those uneventful days where life is normal and happy and there is little coughing and need for decongestant.  But, that two year old boy is still sleeping with an Angel Care monitor during every nap and at night time.  When he finally moves to a big boy bed, I don't know if I can let go of that thing.

For the first 3 months that we were home, the three of us slept in the guest room with a crib next to us.  Every time his monitor would go off, I would jump out of bed waking up next to his bed wondering how I could get up that quickly.

Every night as I tip toe to bed, I go in a feel his back just to be sure that he is breathing.  Sometimes, I go back in the night.

I suppose every parent has fears and worries.  Maybe if I asked other parents, it might lessen my worries or make mine seem more normal.  I'm not sure.

And while the list of doctors is long and the visits are often, I'm thankful.  They continue to be my safety net that helps me to navigate through a frightening parenthood.  I hope that one day these fears will turn loose.  As he grows older, it may make me hold on too tight to a little boy that needs to be normal - running around, getting dirty, playing with bugs and chasing kids on the playground.  I can't protect him from everything.  But, I can certainly try.

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